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    I don't think my typical night out is typical of what most people do in Leeds- I drink 2-3 units of alcohol at the absolute maximum, and rarely come back later than about 1am.

    I get the impression that being a Masters student helps, as the older students seem to have less of a tendency to be drunkards than the undergrads (especially first years).

    There's more to do than just drink here though- I get to go tenpin bowling, have games of pool, have meals out etc.

    snow raven

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    Here's something simple that I didn't think of in that thread, that should make you feel better:

    If one or both parents is feeling down/depressed/trapped due to the financial strain of not working, it's easy to see that this will be detrimental for the child.

    So looking at it that way, you going to work may well be the lesser of two evils for Emily, and thus be part of you doing your best for her.

    That's the last I'll say on the topic, but I hope you feel better about it now. Don't concern yourself about what they say- it's your life, not theirs.

    snow raven

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    Don't worry Snow Raven- I'm very much with you (and indeed Sarah) on this one.

    I admit that I waffled way too much in that thread, but it's what tends to happen when a viewpoint I consider to be intolerant gets my blood boiling- I feel a need to analyse the topic from about 100 different angles to try and show that there's more than one valid opinion on it!

    Good to see that Emily's doing well at school- it must feel good, as I know my parents were always happy when me and my sister were getting high grades at school. It reflects well on the parenting too!

    Cakie

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    Doesn't sound as if things have been going well recently.

    Hope some kind of treat surfaces soon.

    Ironically I got up this morning and thought "it's Katie's birthday today, hope she has a good one"- my infamous tendency to remember everyone's birthdays has infested the N-W population!

    Lorraine

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    Sounds a terrible week- worse than the worst weeks that I have ever experienced. Hope you get over it and have some better weeks soon.

    While it's unavoidable that there will be some bad weeks, if your life is generally unhappy, there may be general reasons why this is so, some of which may be addressable. Once they are gone or reduced in extent, while bad weeks will still happen, on average, life may be better. Just my two pence worth.

    i luv snow

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    Just a very quick reply.

    At your age, it is exceedingly rare for any boyfriend/girlfriend relationships to last, for a number of reasons. I don't think people are fully 'sexually' mature at an adolescent age, and there's usually complications like peer pressure, ego and social status, and a tendency to rush to find 'partners' who turn out not to be compatible personality wise.

    If you don't have a girlfriend, you're probably not missing much- almost everyone your age moves from one girlfriend to another with recurring messy splits.

    If you do have an assortment of reasonably close friends, if they really are true friends, they should at least be prepared to allow you to let your heart out, provided that you don't go on about it regularly for weeks on end. They may also provide you with the support you need that you feel you don't have from a girlfriend.

    Just as an anecdotal point, I'm 21 and still haven't had a girlfriend (and am not too bothered about it), so at 16/17 I'd say there's nothing to worry about.

    Guest

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    Not boring at all Roo. To my mind, all these "extras" (name changing, honeymoons etc) associated with marriage are not essential parts of getting married anyway, they are just traditions. Yes, many people do get very defensive whenever someone decides not to abide by traditions, but as someone who has questioned tradition all my life, I'm kind of biased in the other direction here.

    The whole point of getting married is to have a unity between two sexual partners, but it seems to be much more of a legal and traditional than a moral and ethical choice these days, which is a shame.

    It should be up to you how you get married- as long as the unity point is satisfied, it shouldn't matter, from a moral or legal perspective, how this is brought about or what is done to celebrate the marriage.

    Guest

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    Good to hear this Katie- it has certainly sounded at times like your job has taken over your life. There's a thing called "work-life balance" that some employers just don't seem to understand.

    I'm not even convinced that making employees work such ridiculously long hours actually yields more output. It's well known that students revise less productively when they spend long hours revising- why don't people in industry recognise that a similar thing may also apply with employees? Another thing we got from the USA methinks...

    Here's hoping that your "work-life balance" becomes real in future, rather than being massively weighted towards work.

    It sounds like sad times with the childminder, but many such good things unfortunately come to an end. Then again, there'll be plenty of positive memories to take away from it and if you really wanted this not to be a big goodbye, you could keep in touch afterwards, as with any immediate family that you'll also be moving away from.

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    To be honest, as with most such double standards, I don't really have much against people going along with them in itself.

    I think my main 'sticking point' with this issue is that so long as these double standards exist, "family" can abuse them to try and control or even terminate friendships. "Either the friend goes, or I go" is a common method. When they do, there is very little the friends can do about it, in view of the social pressure to see "family" as being "more important" and assume the "friend" to be the guilty party.

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